If you’re one of the millions of people who are looking for resources to light a fire under your ass for the start of the new year, look no further.
Mel Robbins was on The HIM & HER Show recently sharing tangible, valuable and practical tips to help you live your best life. Now, Mel isn’t a sugar-coater, she’s not going to baby you and advise a gratitude journal and manifesting until your wishes magically appear. No no no, that’s not how she makes things happen.
Mel is going to change your life with her mindset shifts like the 5 second rule and her ‘Let Them’ theory. We’re sharing our top takeaways from the episode here, but you need to listen to the entire episode for real life examples from Mel, science-backed research on her methods, and further explanation how and why to say no, why her methods and theories work, and how you can start right now.
Life-Changing Tools and Habits to Build Your Best Life
The Power of the Five-Second Rule
Mel discusses her struggles with taking action despite knowing what she needs to do. She highlights the importance of the ‘five-second rule’—a technique she developed to counteract hesitation and self-doubt, enabling her to make positive changes in her life. By counting backward from five, she forces herself to act before feelings of reluctance set in. Mel recommends that you don’t let emotions dictate actions and you strive to replace negative habits with new, positive rituals to overcome your challenges.
Taking Action
It’s all the reps, and you know this if you’ve followed Lauryn for a while. It’s day after day, doing what you need to do to get to your goals, and putting in the reps. Mel explains the tedious tasks involved in success, highlighting that persistence and consistency, or ‘doing the reps’, are crucial to overcoming challenges. She asserts that anyone can reach their aspirations by recognizing their potential and taking actionable steps toward their desired outcomes.
Motivation is Garbage
“Motivation is garbage. If you’re waiting around to feel ready, you’re not going to do it.”
It’s so true. Motivation is not going to propel you to your goals because no one feels motivated all the time. Mel talks about her 5 second rule which is so simple, can be universally applied and practiced and actually works – it changed her life enormously.
If you are feeling stuck, ‘unmotivated’ and are waiting around for a fire to be lit inside of you, you have to listen to Mel’s episode and read her book Let Them.
The True Nature of Confidence
By taking action, even in challenging situations, individuals can start to see themselves in a more positive light. Mel shares transformative stories of people who have applied these principles, highlighting significant achievements and breakthroughs in various areas, including mental health and personal growth. She encourages listeners to confront their excuses and take small steps forward toward their goals.
The Let Them Theory: A Mindset Shift
Mel’s powerful mindset tool that helps individuals identify what they can control in their lives is the Let Them theory. She explains that while everything around us can be uncontrollable, we can manage our thoughts, actions, and emotions. Mel emphasizes how allowing external factors and other people’s opinions to dictate our stress can drain our energy and hinder our happiness. By focusing on what we can control, we can reclaim our time and emotional well-being, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life.
That is just a snippet of this value packed episode. There are so many more useful, practical takeaways from the episode. Our notebooks our full and we’re playing this one on repeat.
And it’s really just the perfect episode to kick off the new year. If you’re looking for ‘new year, new you’ inspo you have to listen to Lauryn and Michael’s solo episode on their tools and practices for reflection and refining their personal lives and businesses every year.
In the meantime, be sure to grab Mel’s book Let Them to get a head start on this incredibly effective theory.
x, The Skinny Confidential team.
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